My Ideal Client
My ideal client is in their 20s, 30s or 40s seeking support, insight and tools to better their relationships, career and overall life fulfillment. My ideal client:
- may be struggling with their role in their families, friendships and intimate relationships and how to manage those relationships.
- may struggle with being a people pleaser, perfectionist or suffer from ‘impostor syndrome.’
- may have a hard time with being vulnerable and open in their relationships and lives.
- may struggle with anxiety and depression.
- may not like who they are.
- may struggle with how to deal with toxic or difficult people in their lives.
- may feel something is missing in their life.
- may lack the courage to create the change they want to see and need support to accomplish their goals.
- is motivated to get help.
- is aware they need to make a change.
- is willing to put in the work to help promote their own growth.
Benefits of Therapy
Participation in therapy can result in a number of benefits to you, including being more authentic to who you are, improving interpersonal relationships and resolution of the concerns that led you to seek help. Working toward these benefits requires effort on your part and requires your active involvement, honesty and openness in order to change. I will ask for your feedback and views on progress and other aspects of the therapy and I will expect you to respond openly and honestly. Sometimes more than one approach can be helpful in dealing with a certain situation. During therapy, remembering or talking about unpleasant events, feelings or thoughts can result in your experiencing considerable discomfort or feelings of anger, sadness, worry, fear or experiencing anxiety, depression, insomnia, etc. My belief is that to feel more positive feelings you must work with managing and releasing negative emotions and narratives that keep you stuck.
I may challenge some assumptions or perceptions or propose different ways of looking at, thinking about, or managing situations that may feel upsetting. Attempting to resolve issues that brought you to therapy in the first place may result in changes that were not originally intended. Psychotherapy may result in decisions about changing behaviors, employment, substance use, schooling, or relationships. Sometimes a decision that is positive for one family member is viewed negatively by another family member. Change will sometimes happen quickly, but more often it will take time and patience on your part. There is no guarantee that counseling will yield positive or intended results. During the course of therapy, I will utilize various therapeutic approaches according, in part, to the problem that is being treated, your choices, and feedback, and my assessment of what may benefit you. These approaches include but are not limited to supportive, psychodynamic, body-oriented, developmental, mindfulness, art, music or psycho-educational.
The Time Commitment
Most counseling clients come weekly. Committing to and prioritizing that time is ideal. People may reduce frequency once things improve. Longer sessions are an option for those looking to get a jump start or if there’s a need for more intensive work for a set period of time. Extended sessions can be helpful for busy clients who have trouble coming in weekly or who need intensive work.
People often ask, “How long will this take?” Often, people come to therapy with long standing issues and patterns, difficult childhood or recent experiences, on-going stressors in their career, relationships, health, or families, or multiple issues that require a lengthier counseling process. My belief is that therapy is here to help you do life better. Some people may come for 6 months, 2 years or longer. Its also pretty normal for clients who feel like who have met their goals to periodically come in for “check-ins” when something is stressful or challenging.
The Right Fit
I view the process of therapy as a collaborative process, so I invite clients to provide me with feedback on their progress. Sometimes it becomes clear that a different approach or level of care is best or necessary. If I initiate terminating therapy with you, it will be because I feel that I am not able to be helpful or a higher level of care is indicated. My ethics and license requires that I have my clients’ needs as primary in treatment planning. If I no longer feel that I am the right resource for you, I will offer referrals to other sources of care, but cannot guarantee that they will accept you or how they’ll approach your treatment needs. Once you have stopped attending you are no longer under my care and our therapeutic relationship will be ended unless you reinitiate treatment with me.
Ending therapy well is important. Length of counseling varies and is ultimately up to the client, however, please let me know if you feel ready to complete this course of counseling so that we can have 1-2 wrap up sessions to solidify the gains you’ve made and so I can make recommendations to maintain progress.
Therapy is truly an investment in yourself, and one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself.